FRUSTRATION and how to not be ‘that’ person
Frustration inflicted upon yourself by others can rob you from you own peace, productivity and positive outlook.
Regret, rebellion, resistance against ideas are things you can control, because you are responsible for those.
But Frustration is usually forced onto you by another source or person.
A person who says they care but they really don’t.
A person who needs help but wont really accept it when offered.
A person who should follow instruction but every now and then follow their own head as soon as you take your eye off the ball.
A person who promise they will do something but then never deliver on that promise.
Those are things that people push upon you and you have no choice but to deal with it.
You can ignore it – usually doesn’t work very well – it has the tendency to come back up like a bad reflux when you see them or speak to them and usually at times you thought you have forgotten about it.
You can confront them – causing conflict that might take even more energy and effort than what you really have time or will for. And usually people who frustrate you will also defend themselves in such situations, so it might not even be worth the try.
You can process it – you have no choice but to work through the feelings and the thoughts that other people’s actions stir up in you. That is the point where I started this discussion at the top today…..
But it takes away the peace and productivity from other things you had planned for yourself. It takes hours away from other things that you intended to do…or that you needed to focus on. And that in itself compounds the effect that the initial frustration initiated.
Suddenly a S-N-O-W-B-A-L-L effect occur and everything seems and feels bigger and bigger as you go along and you get more and more frustrated about your own unproductiveness, sad about your own ideas that fled your mind while negative thoughts were taking their place in your head.
Today’s challenge is then in the spirit of people starting to think about New Years’ Resolutions. Maybe we all should just take a moment and think about how we frustrate others.
Unfortunately I don’t always know who I frustrate or why. Sometimes I do know and feel regretful about that.
But being on the other end of it today, I don’t want to be that person who frustrate others.
How about you?
Instead…. I suggest…..
Let’s work those words a little and become a
FOUNTAIN OF INSPIRATION instead of a F-R-U-S-T-R-A-T-I-O-N.
1. Be authentic – don’t pretend something that you are not. You are really only fooling yourself. Show you caring in your doing not in your saying.
2. Follow the instructions – if you are not suppose to follow them, you wont be getting them. If you are in a position where you need to listen and act to someone else’s guidelines, don’t tempt them.
3. Accept help even if you think you don’t need it. It wont hurt. It MIGHT just help despite you being so clever thinking you know it all.
4. Make good on your promises – and if you can’t – explain, apologize, follow up and come to an agreement with that person who now need to alter their expectation.
In general – think about the impact on others.
And if I frustrate you, please tell me.
I don’t want to be that person who steals your joy this season. I really don’t want to.
To a FESTIVE SEASON ahead and spreading some INSPIRATION not FRUSTRATION in the New Year.Ilze